How Do I Self Penetrate My Vagina?

Mon, 11/09/2015 - 09:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I would like some information on how to self penetrate my vagina, in terms of how to put my finger upon entering.

Help plz

Dear L,

Begin with an overall vulva massage using an organic massage oil. Next spend at least 10 minutes gently stimulating your clitoris. Once you feel a degree of sexual arousal, slowly insert your middle finger that has been manicured and covered with oil. Consciously squeeze and release your pelvic floor muscle while taking full breathes.

Go slow and smile.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Help please

Sun, 01/10/2016 - 16:18
Rave Girl (not verified)

Dear Betty,

This is kinda uncomfortable to me, because I never asked advice on how to approach this.

I'm 26 years old, I've NEVER had sex before but been sexually active with myself since 9 years old. As years have gone by the intensity has gotten more and more. I am a virgin but there's this guy that likes me from school. I never really tried putting myself out there to any guys when I was in school. I was more focused on graduating. But lately this guy wants me to date him. I'm nervous to get involved with a guy because I know I will NOT be to control myself.. Meaning every time I date a guy I get butterflies in my stomach on over load! Yes I'd like to save my V till marriage. But I think my V is saying otherwise and driving me crazy.. I'm at the point I'm willing to do it just to settle the V and go for it ... But I've never had sex I don't know how to approach it at the time.. Part of me wonders how amazing sex is but part of me says no you don't because like your friends the guy will get what he wants and then end up leaving you...

I'm lost really and I don't know what to do or how to approach the sex for the first time