From Bodysex to Cosmo

Sun, 03/10/2013 - 10:50
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Cosmo's review of my new ebook How to Make a Girl Come came out on International Women's Day.  The irony wasn't lost on me.  Betty was upset that I didn't consult her before it was tell you the truth I didn't think it would run.

A few weeks ago I got an email from the writer of our NY Mag Bodysex article.  After the workshop, she picked up a sex column at Cosmo.  When she asked if I'd write 6-8 sex tips based on my book, I was kind of surprised - surprised that Cosmo would go clit centric and surprised that Rose wanted to work with me. 

I get a little excited during the workshops.  The sights...the sounds...the smells...I want to share it with all of you.  The positive sexual energy and sisterhood - I want every young woman to have the experience even if she can't be in the circle. 

When I blog about the workshops, I focus on my own experience and the profound moments without sharing any personal information.  However, when I first blogged about the workshop with Rose I included some personal tid bits I thought were public.  Of course, when Rose contacted me I removed them and crossed my fingers - she was in the middle of writing the article and I didn't want to taint her experience.

The piece was stellar and I breathed a sigh of relief.  Still when she emailed about reviewing my ebook I couldn't believe it.  And Cosmo didn't change one word of what I wrote: The Race to the Vag...women needing 30-60 minutes of clitoral stimulation...the combination orgasm.  It's all there. 

When I posted the link on facebook, the love poured in...especially from my family.  It's so rewarding to know that my female cousins are rooting for me.  Then yesterday my dad called which kind of caught me off guard because my dad only calls when my mom and me are fighting.  I had some mail at the house and he wanted to tell me how proud he was of my book. 

It was the first time in my life that my dad shared that he was proud of me.  I didn't realize how much I wanted to hear those words until he said them.  If you've been following my blog, you know that I've been writing about the challenges of my childhood.  I, like many kids growing up in the 80's/90's, felt the impact of the Moral Majority and the Christian Fundamentalist movement in my early life.  Sharing those moments has been an incredibly healing experience.

I'm not sure if my family comes to D&R.  Betty thinks that they do.  In either case, letting go of the past has cleared a new path for us.  We're free to make our future.  Who would have guessed that How to Make a Girl Come would bring us together.

Editor in Chief & Keeper of All Things Betty Dodson

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Family pride

Tue, 03/12/2013 - 01:26

After reading your moving posts about your childhood, it's fantastic to see that many members of your family are actually supportive of you now. Your dad never shared that he was proud of you before (not even when you graduated from law school?) but he's made a point of congratulating you about your ebook on female sexuality! I just would never have guessed it---what a great feeling it must be to finally get this acceptance from your family.