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The Next Bodysex Workshops

Thu, 09/14/2017 - 07:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

The next workshops will be held Fall 2018 on these dates. It's a two day workshop:

Bodysex Certification

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to admin@dodsonandross.com

Mission:

Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.

When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.

Working Through Painful Penetration

Thu, 02/25/2016 - 20:02
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've always been a size queen and I've always been able to penetrate my vagina with ease. When women would share their stories of pain during penetration and how it affected their lives, I couldn't relate...until after I gave birth.

Despite opting for a midwife and choosing a birthing center, I ended up having a C-section. Grayson weighed in at 9 pounds. I thought I could control the weight of my baby by limiting my weight gain during pregnancy. WRONG. I gained 15 pounds but he was huge. There was simply no way I could have had a vaginal birth.

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

Menopause & Hormone Replacement: One Sexologist’s Personal Experience

Sat, 02/12/2011 - 17:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

To my knowledge, there is no one-size-fits-all solution for a woman to remain vaginally active long past menopause without some kind of Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). It's unfortunate, but each of us must find our own path through trial and error. First off, menopause varies greatly. What many don't know is that more than half of all women in the USA have little to no uncomfortable symptoms. After all, it's a natural transition we all experience. Others suffer with hot flashes, night sweats, sleeplessness, memory loss, etc., symptoms that will eventually pass. However, medical professionals along with our overzealous pharmaceutical companies have turned menopause into a deficiency that needs to be treated.

The Bodysex Effect Deepens & Grows the Longer You Do the Work

Fri, 05/04/2018 - 08:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This past weekend's workshop added eleven more women to our certification team or, as Betty calls it, her "All Woman Orgasm Army".

Usually, I can write up the workshop within a day or two but this time I needed almost a week to process everything that happened, everything that I felt. It was the most profound circle we've ever had....ever. What I came to realize, is that the Bodysex effect deepens and grows the longer you do the work.

“I’m Here Because Of My Lineage. The Shame Ends Today”

Mon, 04/16/2018 - 07:46
Submitted by Natasha

[i]This past weekend I led a Bodysex retreat away from home for the first time in the 3 years that I’ve been facilitating these circles. I dreamt of bringing Bodysex to other places even before I began this work, but have always held back from actually doing it — with old stories of self worth and insecurities coming up. Encouraged however by the loving support and confidence of my lover who continually invited me to bring Bodysex to Quebec, I began opening to the idea. He introduced me to Marika, my wonderful sister who offered her assistance and perfect womb like home for the circle, as well as a talented vegan chef who seemed very excited at the prospect of nourishing our pleasure with his food.

I'd Gone Through the Emotional Wheel & Come Back to Selflove

Sun, 04/15/2018 - 11:25
Submitted by Carlin Ross

When you get a call from your doctor and hear the words "rule out melanoma", everything stops. Your heart starts to race. They hang up and you start googling medical jargon which is the worst thing to do in that moment.

I've been here on D&R but unable to put pen to paper for a few weeks. The two rounds of excisions and waiting for the biopsies shut me down emotionally. It wasn't melonoma but that slight brush with the big "C" aroused so many feelings - for the first time in my life - I was fearful of the future.

Because Bad Girls Say No

Tue, 03/13/2018 - 08:16
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We have this cultural myth that if we leave young girls in the dark about their bodies, deny the clitoris, and shame them against sexual experimentation (thank you virginity myth & slut stigma) that they will remain chaste and only have intercourse when they're married. The sexual double standard has always been about limiting female sexual activity.

New research has found that sexually experienced women - women who valued their sexual pleasure - were more likely to say no to unwanted sexual contact while inexperienced women were more likely to engage in unwanted sexual contact. In other words, bad girls say no and good girls say yes.

I Began My Veneration of Spring In the Pines

Thu, 03/08/2018 - 16:02
Submitted by bila kolbe

I think we are in for an early Spring according to my blooming crocuses. It’s that time of year when Mother Earth becomes pregnant with sun and rain, concocting a sumptuous panoply of color emerging from the dark clutches of Winter while she seduces us into a frenzy of surging hormones imaginably culminating in erotic adventures.

Bodysex in Harper's Bazaar

Thu, 03/08/2018 - 08:50
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We've had several media outlets cover Bodysex but yesterday's piece in Harper's Bazaar is the best one yet. 

The images are perfection especially the vulva diagram with the clitoris front and center.  When fashion magazines are publishing this sort of sex ed content, expressly for women, it makes you tingle.  We are at a tipping point and this new wave of feminism is a fucking tsunami.

This is my favorite passage because it speaks to our orgasm expectations.  Thank you, Suzannah, for putting yourself out there and getting it right:

Gap's New Instagram Ad = Breastfeeding Perfection

Tue, 02/27/2018 - 15:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Not only do they show direct nipple contact and breast curve but they featured a woman of color breastfeeding her toddler.  This isn't a newborn baby but a child that's at least one years old.

When Grayson saw this image, he announced, "he's so cute".  Thank you, Gap for normalizing breastfeeding and normalizing breastfeeding your todder.  Grayson will be three this week and he still crawls into our bed in the mornings to nurse.  It's a commitment that's well worth it because he's never been sick.  Breast milk is nature's elixir.

“How Bodysex Has Changed My Life.” In The Words Of Past Participants: Part 1 of 5 ** PLEASURE **

Fri, 02/23/2018 - 08:08
Submitted by Natasha

**** The following quotes and photos have been shared with permission by women who have attended at least one my Bodysex Retreats. Thanks to all of you for showing up and celebrating pleasure with me. <3

“Bodysex has been a long awaited sexual awakening. As we know by the #metoo most of us women experience some kind of sexual assault/abuse at some time in our lives. I now realize My way to deal with it was through anger and advocacy.
However that didn’t leave much room for me to be sexual. Somehow it felt wrong, something that men “did”to women. Bodysex has given me the permission to realize and celebrate my own sexual power as something sacred.”

Raising Happy, Grounded Self-Sexual Sons

Wed, 02/07/2018 - 10:51
Submitted by Carlin Ross

One of the most contentious posts on the site is a question sent to Betty by a pregnant mom, "How Do I Feminize My Son". Users went crazy because it seemed that this mom-to-be wanted to minimize her future son's masculinity. I think she chose an unfortunate title for her question. Now that I'm raising a boy I better understand what she really meant.

Should Madonna Keep Showing Her Tits?

Mon, 01/29/2018 - 15:15
Submitted by Almudena

A few days ago, Madonna uploaded this photo to her Instagram, where she exposes a portion of her nipple.

People started criticizing her for almost being 60 years old and showing her tits and what her children would think - how ashamed they should feel. Surely, of all the times this woman has gone out naked, or in some church rubbing herself with the priests, this is the most subversive thing she has ever done???

Madonna is about to turn 60, and what the culture dictates is that she should not be sexual. People don’t care that she has beautiful tits.  What matters to them is that she’s older, and yet she’s desiring and sexual.

Madonna expressing her sexuality post-menopause gives me hope. I want the freedom to be able to choose a future that I couldn't even imagine now.