This Body And The Stories Drawn On It, Are Me

Fri, 12/09/2016 - 09:04
Submitted by Natasha

I wrote the following blog post nearly 3 months ago yet haven’t had the courage to share it until today. Wondering what was holding me back I sat with it for awhile and realized that it isn’t that I’m afraid to be seen this way – that’s my old story. It’s more that I’m afraid that in sharing my feelings about something that has been this difficult for me, I might being dismissed. I’ve heard many well intentioned women say to me “God if I had your stomach I’d be laughing” or “I don’t know why you’re so hard on yourself – I wish my stomach looked like yours.”

Learning to Love My C-Section Scar

Thu, 08/13/2015 - 08:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Natasha published this photograph on FB and I had to republish it here.  In our workshops, women always share their feelings of shame over having a c-section.  Their scars are a constant reminder of failure. 

I was totally shocked that I ended up with a c-section after laboring for 15 hours.  How could I be orgasmic - have the perfect birthing hips and a killer pc muscle - and NOT be able to squeeze a baby out through my vagina?  I decided to love my c-section scar because it's a symbol of success.

I'm not going to buy into any bs that I'm less of a woman because I needed a little help releasing the life I created into this world.  My scar is beautiful and my son is amazing. 

Gave Birth 3 Months Ago. Sex is Painful

Mon, 12/02/2013 - 11:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I recently had a beautiful baby boy 3 months ago and everything is going so amazing with him here and life in general, except for making love. My husband and I used to have sex 3 or 4 times a day until we had our son. Now sex is completely painful and uncomfortable (even though I had a c section).

And it honestly feels like my vagina clenches up whenever he tries to enter. I'm currently breast feeding and I know that can dry women up so we've tried lots of lube, but that's not the main issue. I can masturbate with my toy and I do just fine, so what's my problem?! I feel like he's just too big for me now since I'm naturally a very small girl. What can I do to alleviate the pain?

Thank you for your time,

Dear B,