Carlin Ross

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

Pleasure is the Real Power

Wed, 06/28/2017 - 15:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Knowing that this past weekend's workshop would be our last shifted something in a very important way - both for us and the women in the circle. If I had to choose one word to describe the weekend, it would be reverance.

I felt a heaviness heading into the weekend, the anticipation of emotion and possible regret. And we'd decided to let the doc crew film our morning together as we set up the room and had breakfast so I had to be camera-ready and "on". Whenever we shoot, I'm always conscious that someone decades from now - maybe even a century - will stumble upon the clip. I want Betty's work to be properly represented. I want to get it all right. I want my words to have meaning.

Bodysex Builds Compassion

Thu, 05/25/2017 - 14:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

When we book the workshops, I try to book 8 women in each group but there's always one workshop that's underbooked, one that's overbooked, and one that's perfect. This past weekend's group was our overbooked workshop.

We had women from all over the United States - one native New Yorker - and future bodysex leaders from Israel and Canada. More importantly, we had our first mother daughter attendees. I didn't clear it with Betty when I booked them but somehow I knew that it was going to work.

Remembering My Journey

Wed, 05/17/2017 - 15:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Thanksgiving 2001

As women, I think it's easy to forget our journey. Careers, motherhood and the constant barage of life duties and expectations keep you locked down in the present. Sometimes you need to spend an hour or two answering questions about your life story to remember.

We're finally moving forward with a documentary on Betty with a trusted producer. We don't have any creative control but feel confident that they understand who Betty is and the relevance of her work. It was totally inconvenient but I spent last Saturday, under the lights in full makeup, describing how I ended up on Betty Dodson's door step.

Every Woman Had an Orgasm

Tue, 06/28/2016 - 11:39
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This past weekend we had our last workshop of the season. We were overbooked, had some last minute cancellations, and filled the slots from our wait list. The most amazing women sit in our circles - somehow the "right" women find their way to the "right" workshop.

We had women from Australia, Canada, Hawaii, the Northeast and the West workers, probation officers, students and a former nun. Betty and I were struck by the gifts and the strength of these women, how fortunate we are to call them sisters. I feel like I'm ruined for ordinary friendships because of the deep connections we create through Bodysex. The women who move forward with certification cross over into family.

We’ll be Adding Norway & London to the List

Tue, 07/14/2015 - 11:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

The final ritual we do in the workshops is to have the women sit Indian style on the floor right next to each other in a small circle. We all hold hands and Betty has us make eye contact with each woman – then we each choose one word and share it with the group. For me, this past weekend was about “gratitude”.

This Group was so Harmonious

Tue, 06/23/2015 - 12:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This was our first Bodysex season post-baby and I started this past weekends workshop with a breast infection. I woke up tired and achey and my breast was all red and inflamed. We had women traveling from Taiwan, Chile, London, Poland, Boston and the West Coast - there was no way I could cancel, there was no one to take my place - plus bodysex is addictive and I wanted my fix.

I'm So Grateful to be Doing This Work and the Continued Healing in My Life

Tue, 06/02/2015 - 09:09
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We say it every time but this past weekend's workshop was the best one yet.

When we chose the dates for our Summer session, I was in my last trimester. I had no idea how I was going to pull it all off with a three-month old baby...would I be able to set up the room and do all the physical work that goes into a workshop...would Grayson be able to sit in the back room without screaming his head off...would I be sleeping enough to be present in the circle? I had total first-time-mom gitters.

Sometimes Your Birth Plan Goes South

Thu, 03/05/2015 - 11:24
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I was two days past my due date and I was climbing the walls. After spending three weeks sick with a head/chest cold, I finally felt strong enough to deliver so I headed off to my midwife for a cervical sweep to see if we could get things moving.

The next morning around 3am I started having contractions. Throughout my pregnancy, everyone was talking about pre-labor contractions but, let me tell you, until you have a real birth contraction you have no idea what sort of physical intensity you're going to experience bringing a new life into this world.

My Pregnancy Body

Fri, 12/19/2014 - 17:19
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've always been defined by my body. I had curves at a young age - I had to balance jeers from my brother and his friends with leers from men in my dad's church.

Pregnancy has been a beautiful experience because I've shed all that. I am hourglass no waist is carrying a human life and my ass is dwarfed by it's growing proportions. This whole experience is so healing because my body is fulfilling its intended purpose. I don't exist solely for the pleasure of others. That is fucking power.

Always Loved My Dad's Strong Arms

Sun, 06/15/2014 - 09:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

When I was a little girl and we pulled into the driveway after a family outing, I would pretend I was sleeping so that my dad would carry me into the house and put me in bed.

I always loved his strong arms.   Happy Father's Day Charlie.

My Orgasm

Thu, 01/16/2014 - 15:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We've launched a new video series My Orgasm and I decided to go first, sharing my orgasms with you on camera.

When we shot these clips, I'd just ended my 8 year relationship. It was abrupt...unnecessarily cruel...but time to move forward. Lawrence Lanoff was in town and, over lunch, we agreed to film me taking you through all of Betty's orgasm techniques for the women who can't make it to a Bodysex Workshop. When you witness the kind of healing that takes place in the workshops, you want to share it with the world even if that means bearing it all on film.

"Sex is Not a Test of Your Manhood"

Sun, 04/28/2013 - 11:46
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Whenever I get a new review of my ebook How to Make a Girl Come I tingle. Here's the latest 5-star review from Antonio Melendez:

A Toast4orgasms

"I can't thank you enough for sharing your wisdom and having an awesome mentor Betty. In your book you say 'sex is about pleasure and having fun. It's not a test of your manhood'

You've given us a valuable treasure and all we need is practice...I will be starting my pleasure kit from and BIG congratulations for this outstanding book... I love it."


I'm F*cking 40

Sun, 04/07/2013 - 10:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

You know I had to celebrate my birthday with a naked pic...I'm happiest naked in my bedroom and this pic is exactly how I feel today.

I'm happy and excited for the second half of my life. This year has been the most challenging to date but I wouldn't change a thing. I've learned so much about myself and my purpose. The Betty A. Dodson Foundation is just about to become a education and information for all.

Thank you for all my birthday wishes. I am so grateful for all of the love and support.

From Bodysex to Cosmo

Sun, 03/10/2013 - 10:50
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Cosmo's review of my new ebook How to Make a Girl Come came out on International Women's Day.  The irony wasn't lost on me.  Betty was upset that I didn't consult her before it was tell you the truth I didn't think it would run.