What is the Ideal Penis Size for Women?

Tue, 06/13/2017 - 14:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We posted this clip July 2014.  It has 245,054 views, 213 comments, 436 likes & 105 dislikes.

Inquirin' minds want to know

Sun, 01/04/2015 - 23:23

I just discovered this wonderful site - thank you for all the excellent information!
Having just watched this video (twice), I can't help but wonder...
Betty - did you try the 8" dildo, and if so - how was it? More enjoyable than 7"?
As a guy with the "standard package" (actually a bit above average, but nothing close to 8"), it's a bit disheartening to learn what a woman needs for a vaginal orgasm is way more than I have.
But it's great to learn that I can give my wife orgasms she'll enjoy just as much by combining clitoral and vaginal (and maybe anal) stimulation. As a matter of fact, that's what we've been doing for years, and she's always loved it, but we've continued chasing the elusive (and we had thought, somehow better) vaginal orgasm. It's great to know that what we have is just as good. Thank you!

'Size' again!

Sun, 07/13/2014 - 19:47

'Size' again! Why is it that lesbians never write in dying to know the 'ideal size' for their partner's dildo? Could it be because it's actually not very important, except in the minds of men made insecure by cultural myths and porn?

There are some women who do love penetrative sex and come from it regularly. There are women who never get much out of it. And there are many other women, perhaps a majority, who enjoy penetration to some degree but usually have their orgasms in other ways. But our cultural myths continue to mislead us by implying that penile size and function are critically important to female satisfaction. Not true, and it never was. But men don't understand how happy they should be to learn this.

Women who enjoy penetration might or might not have a size range they find most comfortable or arousing, but this question is really a red herring. At bottom, it's all about anxious men asking, 'Is the way I'm built okay, or should I make myself miserable uselessly worrying about it when there are hundreds of more important factors in satisfying sex?'

It's crucial for men to understand that trading intercourse-centered sex for a more eclectic sexual repertoire has fabulous benefits for them as well as for their partners. No more pressure to 'last a long time' or have an endless erection---instead, the freedom to go for as many orgasms as you can have. Much more creative sex---blending oral, manual, and vibrator techniques in ways that are much more likely to give intense and repeated orgasms for each partner. Couples can always flow in and out of intercourse and alternate it with any of these other activities if they like; the possibilities are endless. The erotic potential for hetero couples is vastly higher if intercourse is only one of the dishes on the buffet and not the inevitable main course. We just have to get the word out and destroy those tired old myths.

More please

Thu, 08/28/2014 - 22:22

As a married male of 30 years. Please go on. My wife only allows my (for the most part) straight (boring) intercourse. Very little oral, foreplay, etc. rarely toys, once a decade a additional female partner ( I'd be fine with a male) etc. because she tells me she just likes to fuck, my cock is all I seem to have.